Create Your 2014
Another attempt at a twist to New Years Resolutions, this year I’m calling it Create Your 2014.
So how does it work? It’s simple. Every Sunday, I’ll post something. Anything! The only rule is it has to come from my own perspective or be accompanied by my own reflections. It could be a song I’ve listened to all week, a journal entry, a picture, poem, story, video. Anything from that week.
Why have I decided to do this? Because this year, I want to remind myself that life is what you make of it. No matter who pressures you, what limits you, where you are, you still have the choice to make the most of what you’ve been given and explore the ways to make something even greater from what you already have.
Care to join me and Create Your 2014?
Post something every Sunday! On Tumblr, Instagram, Facebook, whatever you choose. And tag/hashtag it #neverstopcreating and if you’d like #createyour2014
I don’t usually post personal photos. Actually, it’s been a while since I’ve posted anything at all, but anyway, here goes
Today’s December 26th. For the past seven years I’ve thrown a Christmas (or rather, After Christmas) Party on this day. This is the first year I haven’t.
I’m all for tradition. I’m the sentimental type. I love making things annual, monthly, weekly. I like having a little regularity in life to go back to every once in a while. But for different reasons, I just didn’t feel like keeping the tradition alive this year. Things feel different.
Another friend though, threw a Christmas Party a couple days before Christmas and it was my pleasure to join in. Though I don’t really know too many of them very well since I graduated a couple years before most of them, there were a couple who it was nice to get back in touch with.
In particular, Steven. It must have been about a year, a bit less, since the last time I’ve seen him. We caught each other up on the latest happenings in our lives, but more so than that, we spent a good hour, post-party talking about connections and friendships.
You see, I’m all for meeting and getting to know new people, but I’ve come to this point in my life in which I’ve realized that more so than continuing to make more and more friends, I want to hold onto the friends I already have and keep those relationships strong. So many of my past friendships seem to be on pause. Many more have simply stopped. And I’ve come to realize that there is no point trying to make every new person your best friend if you’re going to end up losing that friendship because you continue to try and make more and more people your close friend.
In the end, constantly making new close friends can end up just becoming a never ending spiral of new faces.
And I’d rather have a handful of people who I know I can always share my life with, even if I can’t share every experience.
And, I really like this picture, but I don’t have very many places to post it =]
You cannot pray for an A on a test and study for a B. You cannot pray for a celestial marriage and live a telestial life. You cannot pray for something and act less.
ARE YOU WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER?
During a seminar, a woman asked,” How do I know if I am with the right person?”
The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, “It depends. Is that your partner?”
In all seriousness, she answered “How did you know?”
“Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind.” replied the author.
Here’s the answer:
Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love.
People in love sometimes say, I was swept of my feet. Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.
Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone
else. This is when relationships breakdown.
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.
People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.
Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.
I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later.
Because (listen carefully to this)
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the Person you found.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know
WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.
Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.
Love is therefore a “decision”. Not just a feeling.
Remember this always: the universe determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go!
wow I love this
Smile even though it may be easier to frown. Wake up even though it may be easier to sleep in. And depend on people although it may be easier to keep to yourself. Because in the end, you know there are people who love you.
People spend too much time trying to find the perfect love instead of trying to build the perfect love.